The Bone House of Love
August 13, 2021 @ 6:00 pm - August 15, 2021 @ 12:00 pm
We have a kind of phantom institution called matrimony. It isn’t a word that’s used very much. Matrimony is not marriage. Nor is it relationship. And there’s no parallel condition that any of us are ushered into called patrimony. On the surface of it, not very inclusive.
It is the event that is supposed to make marriage out of love (and out of other things, not all of them noble). Matrimony is supposed to make people married, to give their strengths and longings and dreams a place to appear in the world. It is in every sense of the word a ceremony, a conjuring act, an event of wizadry that must craft something that is not there otherwise. It is there to deepen, animate and humanize the corner of the world it happens in. Matrimony is among us to change the world. It is as old a craft as we have.
It is emphatically not a celebration, a confirmation of the feelings two people have for each other. In our time, though, that is almost exclusively what it has become. Where it is done at all, matrimony has generally become a government sanctioned recreation of another nuclear family.
And it is taking place in a hard, dangerous and endangered world. It’s more than clear: Matrimony is not shelter from the storm. The statistics tell us that matrimony has become another storm. And nobody goes to a wedding to change the world, or to be changed by it. Maybe they go now to circle the wagons, make a safe space, spite the world.
So this is a session on behalf of the person-making, world restoring ritual called matrimony.